The deaths of fashion designer Kate Spade and celebrity chef and TV host Anthony Bourdain have shocked the world. Suicide is an all too common problem in our modern society, and even affects those who seem to have it all together. Suicide does not discriminate among anyone, especially those with wealth, power, success, loving families and a seemingly perfect life.
Everyone faces struggles. It is how individuals choose to cope that changes the outcome.
From what we know of Spade’s particular story, and many like it, there were warning signs that surrounding individuals did not recognize as a serious cause for concern. These signs are evident in hindsight, but at the time observers of Kate’s struggle saw them as fleeting.
Clinical depression is more than a period of being “stuck in the blues.” It is a persistent mental illness that can occur cyclically and last for long periods of time. Without treatment, it can get substantially worse for the sufferer. Sadly, many seek suicide as an escape from their depression.
If someone becomes obsessed with a particular death or the concept altogether, it can be a warning sign that something is not quite right. Kate was preoccupied with the suicide of Robin Williams, for example.
Brash statements about wanting to end it all or the desire to die need to be taken seriously from the start.
Constant rumination and discussion of feelings of hopelessness, no purpose or no motivation are a substantial sign of declining mental health — take note. A sufferer’s usual favorite things are no longer admired or desired. Erratic moods and disrupted sleep schedules are also signs of depression declining to potential suicide. Other signs include feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness and weight changes.
Comorbidity of substance abuse and depression is common. This is an indication of the user trying to seek an escape from feelings or a situation with which he is unhappy. A sudden desire to give away possessions or form a will can be another indication of planning a suicide attempt. The depressed individual might go as far as to say goodbye to specific people.
Regardless, if a loved one seems to be suffering a great deal or just ever so slightly, it should always be taken seriously and referred to a mental health professional.
Suicide is unfortunate not just for the obvious loss of life, but because there are many great therapies available to help people get better. Unfortunately, there are two main obstacles standing in the way of help.
The first is the continued stigma around mental illness. Every time we lose a celebrity or public figure to suicide, society becomes more conscious of mental illness and there is increased awareness made to reduce this stigma. Sadly, after just a few short days the momentum seems to wane and people once again are embarrassed to discuss their mental health struggles.
We need to continue to push the fact that the brain is like any other organ in the body. Just as your heart or kidneys may have certain issues, so too can your brain. If the stigma is broken, fewer people have to suffer in silence.
The second issue standing in the way of suicide prevention is the misdiagnosis of clinical depression and bipolar disorder. In fact, studies have shown that it can take up to 10 years to get the correct diagnosis. There are a number of reasons for this. A physician might only screen for depression but fail to inquire about mania. Comorbidity in bipolar disorder is also very common, so again, a physician might quickly pick up on an anxiety disorder but fail to screen for other illnesses.
Finally, some patients don’t see their symptoms as abnormal and think this is just the way they are supposed to be. Digging deeper and asking what friends or family have said about the patient’s behavior might present a more objective look at what’s really going on.
Everyone must realize that there is an emergence of wonderful treatments available for mental illness. We have traditional pharmacology and therapy available, and even newer treatments like Ketamine IV infusions that can help patients feel better almost immediately. This could potentially reduce suicides and buy the patient more time allowing for the appropriate interventions.
The statistics on suicide are appalling. For example, for every suicide there are 25 attempted suicides. There are roughly 123 suicides each day in this country, with the highest rate currently among middle-aged white males.
For people with bipolar disorder it’s even worse, with one completed suicide for every three attempts.
The worst part is these deaths can be avoided. There are methods to prevent suicide. Don’t take warning signs lightly. It is always better to be safe rather than sorry, especially when it comes to saving a life.
If you are suicidal or suspect someone else is, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK.
Prakash Masand M.D. is a psychiatrist and the founder of the Centers of Psychiatric Excellence. https://staging.chorusy.com.